What You'll Learn:
The Beatles sang, “All you need is love.” Unfortunately, five out of ten marriages end in divorce, which suggests that love alone is not enough. During decades of counseling troubled marriages, Dr. Eggerichs frequently observed a destructive pattern: When a woman doesn’t feel loved by her husband, she responds by withholding respect—and when a man doesn’t feel respected by his wife, he responds by withholding love. The result is a self-perpetuating cycle of marital craziness. Eggerichs believes that breaking this cycle is the key to solving most of the problems in the marriage relationship.
Key Insights:
- Wives need love and husbands need respect.
- The sexes often fail to communicate because they send messages to one another in code.
- Men are motivated by the respect of their wives.
- Women are motivated by the love of their husbands.
- What works with a friend doesn’t work when seeking to resolve conflict with a husband.
- Disrespect doesn’t stimulate love.
- Sometimes faith will be required to take the place of feelings.
- Men must learn to admit feeling disrespected.
- Forgiveness means not holding a grudge.
- Treat your spouse as you hope to be treated.