What You'll Learn:
In his classic book The 5 Love Languages, psychologist and speaker Gary Chapman argues that dysfunction in marriages is largely rooted in the fact that we all speak different love languages, and people fail to learn and speak their partner’s. This leads to couples running on empty emotional tanks. Chapman explains the five love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch), and then shows how the discovery of your spouse’s love language can lead to a more loving, lasting marriage.
Key Insights:
- Marriages fall apart when spouses do not learn the other’s love language.
- Hoping for uninterrupted romantic bliss with “the right one” will leave you running on an empty emotional tank.
- Loving your spouse when infatuation has faded requires conscious, deliberate effort.
- There are five distinct love languages, and not everyone speaks the same language.
- Your hurts, frequent requests, and displays of affection will tell you what your primary language is.
- Failure to learn your spouse’s love language could lead to them seeking fulfillment from someone else.
- Your comfort is less important than your spouse’s fulfillment.
- Love doesn’t solve all our problems, but it meets critical needs like sense of security and self-worth.